Have you ever walked into someone’s house and didn’t know
how to act because it was spotless? A house
that was perfectly decorated and everything had a place. And if you had kids with you, forget it. The nervousness of the whole thing just made
you so uncomfortable you couldn’t enjoy yourself. You
look over at your kids with an "evil eye" and mouth the words Don’T. Touch. AnythinG.
I prefer to visit with people whose homes
are a little “lived in.” A little dust
here and there, a few things out of order, you know. Some place that feels like home. (Except the kitchen. I like very clean kitchens and
bathrooms. Those two areas can be
spotless, I’m good with that. )
Have you ever spent hours in awe of all those posts on Pinterest,
or Instagram, or blogs, or magazines and felt like your life just wasn’t “picture”
perfect? After re-pinning everything that
you would love to have in your Pinterest inspired life, you turned from your screen with blood
shot eyes and ended up horrified at the reality around you? Nothing physically close to you was “Pinterest
worthy”
That’s was me. Both
accounts. There are people in our life’s who
have these kinds of “Pinterest worthy” homes.
We used to call them Better Homes and Gardens. Nothing wrong with it, but for most of us,
it just isn’t real. We are real. We have lives, we have kids, grandkids, pets,
jobs, errands to run and no, we don’t have a cleaning crew (At least not a
paid, professional one anyway!)
We spend way too much time on Pinterest, pinning everything
down onto our very own dream board. All
the decorating ideas, the recipes, the crafts, the exercises, the DIY’s and
tutorials. We see the possibility of
peace and tranquility “if only ours could look like that.” The trouble
is we don’t have the time, the energy or the money to accomplish all of these
wishes. So what do we do? We search for ways on Pinterest to manage our
time only to end up creating new boards… time management board, how to make
more money board and how to have more energy board.
It all has to stop. We
just get into this endless cycle of ohhing and awing and pinning and wanting
but not doing. Because every pin is a
picture of the perfect outcome and perfection scares us a little. We can’t even try because we know it won’t
look like the picture. It was this
realization that made me decide that I was going to stop looking at Pinterest,
and stop looking at my fave magazines , Tea Time and Romantic Homes because I was just setting myself
up. In all reality that lasted just a
couple of hours, well maybe a day.
It dawned on me that what I’m not seeing is the trial and
error before the perfect outcome. The “what was happening before” the Pinterest
worthy picture. That I needed to “widen
the lens” on my camera and realize that there was so much going on behind the
scenes of those pictures. Please
realize that most of the pictures are staged.
I know, I’ve done it for this blog.
Ya, I’ve moved furniture and set up tea for the sake of the blog
photos. I bet you have too, maybe not “set
up tea” but you know what I mean.
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This is a set up Tea party - complete with family in the background - waiting to partake of the goodies! |
Really knowing these things has given me a
little peace and helped me let go of some of my own thoughts of perfectionism. That it’s okay to have a dream board…dreams
are what we turn into goals. And the
next time I’m invited to That Friend’s house, I will warn the kids ahead of
time and when I go in I will compliment her and ask her how she does it? How she keeps it all together? I will
relax and enjoy the fact that she thought enough of me to want me and my motley
crew to come over and spend some time. And I will imagine that she has a couple of
OMG closets and that everything was staged for our benefit and enjoyment.
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