Tuesday, August 16, 2016

3 ways to stop flying by the seat of your pants - Part 3



This is a 3 part series.   If you are so inclined you can read the rest of this article here and here.  I hope you do, because these are just little tips that helped me along life’s way.   See I’m a wife and a mom to 4 daughters, 3 son-in-loves, 2 nieces, and 9 grands.   I’ve also held a full time job, along with a side business and volunteer work!  I KNOW what it is like to FLY by the SEAT of my Pants!   Is everything perfect now?  Nope.  No way.  I’m still working at it.   So if you feel overwhelmed, come along with me…let’s see if we can fix this together my friend. 

We left off with “getting” to do something for our family.   It’s all about changing your mindset.  You don’t “have” to make them a meal, you “get” to.   There was once a day when you were so happy to do this sort of thing.  It blessed your kids and your husband and you.  Then life happened.  You got busy and in over your head with laundry and chores and kids and pets.   Sometimes it just took a couple of weeks of everyone passing around a bug to wipe out all of your hard work.   It’s okay.  We just pick up and start again.  They’re your family, such as they are, they are yours. (Once when I was having a fit I called my dear husband a Slob.  He said to me “but I’m your Slob” Lol! Yes he is, and I love him!) 
So back to the planning thing, what is it that you GET to do to bless your family?  Laundry?  Dinner?  (Both right?!)  Don’t put laundry and groceries on the same day.  You don’t have to be a martyr.    Write it on your piece of paper and then do it.   Do you have to clean the kitchen before you cook?  It’s possible to clean and cook simultaneously.  You can put the water on to boil and empty/load the dishwasher while you’re waiting.  And then learn to clean up as you go.   It can happen.  I know. 
At the end of the day, you can look back and say I accomplished something.  If you followed along with these posts then you have 1)gotten groceries into the house 2) spent 30 minutes on yourself  and 3) blessed your family by making dinner!   Now pull out that piece of paper and write the day of the week on it.  Turn it over and write down the one thing you have to do tomorrow.  Do you have to do the laundry? At least some of it?  (You know what I used to do, I used to check my husbands clean clothes to make sure he had enough clean socks, underwear, shirts, etc., if he was getting low I made sure I did his first because I have tons of underwear and socks, I could go a whole month probably!)  Does your kitchen need a good scrubbing?  How about the bathroom?  You get the drift.  You are the one who knows what needs your attention! 
Write it down.  After that write down something you want to do and then another thing you get to do.   At the end of the day, do the same thing.  Keep your papers together and do this for a whole week. Next week you’ll already have a planning system to go by.  You can add and change it up as you get comfortable with having a routine.  Once you’ve gotten it down, it’s okay to pick up a cool planner if you want.  I love mine.  It’s an Erin Condren (a little shameless plug here.)  You can get one through this link and save $10.00!   Warning though:  you could go down the black hole of planner accessories here… self control!

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Thursday, August 11, 2016

3 ways to stop flying by the seat of your pants - Part 2

This is a 3 part series.   If you are so inclined you can read the first part of this article here (Part 1).  I hope you do, because these are just little tips that helped me along life’s way.   See I’m a wife and a mom to 4 daughters, 3 son-in-loves, 2 nieces, and 9 grands.   I’ve also held a full time job, along with a side business and volunteer work!  I KNOW what it is like to FLY by the SEAT of my Pants!   Is everything perfect now?  No.  No way.  I’m still working at it.   So if you feel overwhelmed, come along with me…let’s see if we can fix this together my friend. 

Part 2:  

Last time we talked about doing one thing that was absolutely a must!  What was it for you?  Did you go to the grocery store?  Did you clean your kitchen?  Take a shower?   Whatever it was, after you've done that one thing, check it off and write down something you want to do.  Did you want to paint your nails?  Do you want to get lost on Pinterest?  Okay write that down, and set your timer.   Give yourself 30 minutes.  I know, you have kids.  They are not going to let you have 30 minutes.  They'll start fighting, or throwing up or someone will let the dog out of the yard.  I know this.  Here's what you're going to do:  put them in a safe place (crib, playpen, neighbors house) or if they are old enough to play in the back yard or watch tv without constant supervision let them do that.   Tell them when my timer goes off we will have a treat (a little bribing goes along way). Maybe it's a Popsicle or you'll play Legos with them (not after you just did your nails...for obvious reasons).   Now set your timer and do your thing.  It's just 30 minutes, but it's your thirty minutes.  Maybe position yourself so you can have one eye on the kids if that makes you feel better.   

After you've done that check it off!  Yes you did.  At this point you've taken care of one thing that had to happen, and one thing you wanted to do.  Now write down that one thing that you get to do to take care of your family.  Wait...why did I have me time before I took care of my family?  Doesn't that make me selfish?  Doesn't that go against everything we've been taught?... No. No, it doesn't.  Trust me.  It will make you a better mama, a better wife, a better person to be around.  We need a little bit of me time and if we always put ourselves last then it won't happen.  I know.  Back to the family thing...we get to take care of them, it's a blessing for us.  We fight it sometimes because we've not taken the time to take care of the have to's and want to's.   We get to fill their bellies with yummy food.  You know what they like.  We get to give them a clean bed to sleep in and clean clothes to wear.  We get to teach them how to take care of themselves.   We get to relax and have fun with them.  (Like play Legos for a little while.  Or Barbies, is that still a thing?  How about build Lego furniture for Barbies.  Your kids will think you're the coolest)!   

Wednesday, August 3, 2016

3 ways to stop flying by the seat of your pants - Part 1




  This is a 3-part series.  If you are so inclined you can read the rest of this article here (Part 2) and here.  I hope you do, because these are just little tips that helped me along life’s way.   See I’m a wife and a mom to 4 daughters, 3 son-in-loves, 2 nieces, and 9 grands.   I’ve also held a full time job, along with a side business and volunteer work!  I KNOW what it is like to FLY by the SEAT of my Pants!   Is everything perfect now?  No.  No way.  I’m still working at it.   So if you feel overwhelmed, come along with me…let’s see if we can fix this together my friend. 



Start using a planning system - I know you've tried this before.  And in your determination to finally land your plane it took you all day to organize your board, your planner, your to do list.   Everything had to match and be perfect and you were so proud of how it looked.   You were ready to conquer the world!  Remember looking up from that project and noticed it was 30 minutes until HE would be home from work and the kids were sitting in front of the television eating cereal out the box, in their diapers and pajamas.  You were not together either and the flying began again.  So this time, instead of running to the office supply store, go to your stash pile of stuff and pull out a piece of paper.  I know you have one, if not several!  Remember, I've been there! Write down one thing you have to do today.  This will be the beginning of your system.  It could be as simple as taking a shower and getting it together girl!  


Or as time consuming as grocery shopping. (But don't do the kind of grocery shopping that requires research, clipping and organizing.  Not yet.  Not this time. Just get some groceries in the house already! Do make a quick menu and list however, and stick to it, or else it could just add to your chaos! That is a whole  other post!) So whatever that one thing is, after you've written it down, go do it Seriously.  Whatever it takes.  You will feel so accomplished afterwards.  Disclaimer - If it was grocery shopping, you might be exhausted, accomplished but exhausted.  Especially if all of the kids went with - get some easy peasy dinner fixings for tonight!    

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

3 Ways to Tame your To Do List


Yesterday I bounded out of bed excited to start my day!  Why?  Because it was my first real day of no longer working for someone else!   Oh oh the excitement!  I shared in a previous post that my last day as an Employment Specialist was June 30.   That was followed by a week long, much needed,  "staycation" for my Sweet William and I.   We did a few things here and there around the house,  went to an Estate Sale, a couple of Garage Sales, and an Antique Store or two.  Just hung around each other ...  it was nice.  I purposefully took the week off too so I wouldn't get all aggravated trying to establish a new routine with SW hanging around, I do know myself.  The week off had to end and yesterday he went back to work. I was left to myself and my much anticipated To Do List!  

It is long!  I've been working outside of my home for most of our 34 years of marriage.  I have been blessed with many children and grandchildren, have a side hobby (soon to be business),  and we've all been very involved at church!   Needless to say there is a lot of stuff to get caught up on around here. That was one of my main reasons for wanting to "come home."  First I want to clean my house.  It needs to be de-cluttered.  Everywhere.  From the closets and cabinets to the garage and basement.  Did I say Everywhere?  

Looking at that list was overwhelming to say to the least.  I wanted to put it down and sew something instead!  But after a few minutes of focusing on my list I broke it down by doing these 3 things:

1.   Prioritizing - duh, right?  No really.   What needed to be done first. Today, this week, this month. Take my office space for instance:  Pay the bills before trying to organize the paperwork that has piled up.   Yes in some cases it meant going through the piles to find the bill. Most of my bills are paid online anyway but there are few occasional bills that aren't.  Getting the bills paid today will make it easier to FOCUS on shredding, filing and organizing my office space without the pressure of looming deadlines. The goal is to work at it 15 - 20 minutes a day for a week and it should be in pretty good shape.   Then a few minutes everyday should keep the clutter from growing out of control.   I'm applying this principal to the other areas as well.   In the kitchen I have made a menu, shopping list, and did the shopping.  Why?  So while I'm busy de-cluttering the house I only have to take a few minutes in the morning to see what's for dinner and take meat out of the freezer if that applies.   Just knowing what you're going to make is half the battle.  Prioritizing.  What absolutely must be done now to keep you from getting stressed out?  Phone calls? Appointments to make? Errands to run?  Does one thing have to happen before you can begin another?   When does it have to be done?  Today, this week, this month?   Put it in your planner, on your calendar or whatever system you are using to keep track of life.  Yes you should be using something.  

2.  Group things that are alike or in close proximity to each other - Huh?  You'll see.   Back to my office space.  On my to do list is to balance my checkbook, spend 15 minutes de-cluttering my desk, and write a blog post.  These things can/should happen at my desk.   Also on my list for today is to water the plants, deep clean master bathroom, start clearing out the garage, 10 minute pick-up in the living room, dining room, and my room and do a load of towels.   It wouldn't make sense to run up an down the stairs from one task to another.  Instead I did what could be done at my desk, followed by picking up my bedroom (they are in the same room) then do a little deep cleaning in the master bath.  I then went down to the living room/dining room and picked up there, watered the plants and spent 15 minutes working in the garage.   See the picture?  It's not so hard if we organize ourselves.   It's like when you run errands. If you have to go to the bank, the post office and the grocery store you plan your trip so you're not spending too much time driving.  I did a lot of driving in my last job.  I planned out most of my trips before I left the office to make the best use of my time and gas.   It just makes sense.  (Except if you have teenagers who need want to go places, they don't understand this.)  

3.  Delegate - Oh Ya!  If somebody else can do it, they should.  It's okay if they don't do it like you would, it's getting done and that is a blessing.    I had on my list today to wash a load of towels.   J was just watching TV so I had her do that.  And dry them.  And fold them.  And put them away.  That is important - follow it through so you're not surprised by mildew-y towels in the washer in a couple of days.  Yes she had already done her assigned chores (which is the master list of delegation!) Can someone else water the plants?  Can someone else make dinner?  Score!  That's always welcome.  I know I am not super woman, I can't and shouldn't do everything myself.  I will burn out fast and then not be very pleasant to be around.   I have plans.   And in order for my plans to come around, I have to tame my to do list.  I can't let it get the best of me.  It will go where I want it to go, as fast or as slow as I want it to go.  

Monday, June 13, 2016

White Treasures

 I don't know what it is that attracts me to White.  I'm certainly drawn to it whenever I'm treasure hunting or just out an about.   Smooth shiny whites like tea pots and ironstone and textured, frilly whites, like flowers, fabrics, and lace.  I love white lace.
I love shabby chippy whites too.  Like this staircase. This has been the favored spot of many family pictures.   (Though I admit it does need a new coat of white paint at this point, don't you think?  It looks kind of unsteady.)

I really like white flowers, like these snowballs.  They don't last a long time so every year I take pictures of them in bloom so I can enjoy them longer.   I also have a white lilac bush that didn't bloom this year? (Sad face emoji here) and I have a champagne rose bush that has little buds on it.  

 So naturally when I was out treasure hunting this past weekend my eye was drawn to these two beauties.   Two different yard sales and great deals I must say.
 This is a hand knit 60" by 80" afghan.  It has come apart just a little on a seam so I will be fixing that.  Someone put a lot of work into this beautiful piece of art.  It is soft and warm.  Just lovely.
This is a queen size polka dot chenille bedspread.   There are no manufacturer tags on it so I can't tell if it's vintage or newer.  It is in great shape however, with fringes on three sides.  It too is just beautiful.   I will eventually have to take these to the Market but for now I just want to look at them, and run my hands over their texture.  If I could keep them, I would.
Do you like whites?   

Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Leaving my day job and working from home.



I recently went to Christie Wright's Business Boutique in Phoenix.  It was A W E S O M E.  I learned some stuff,  other stuff was confirmed and I feel I have a focus now, I think!   I've shared before about how my mind starts running all over.  


 My first order of business will be to start where I'm at with what I have.   My rented space at American Classics Marketplace in Colorado Springs.  


This year has been tough, financially, with my booth.  It's not paying it's own rent.  Whaaaaat?   It did well for a long time, but as soon as I decide I'm quitting my other job that happens.  Devil!  He knows that a blessing is coming my way and he's trying to keep me from going after it!  All of this time, as I've prayed about leaving, I kept hearing Trust God.  Then I got to the point where I wasn't praying about it anymore, I was just thanking God for it.   I'm still trusting.  It will turn around or God has something better in mind.  

 I believe as I am able to put in more time, it will bring in more mulah!  Yes.  To quote Christie Wright "Your business will grow in proportion to how much time you commit"    I've seen this in the past.   When I've spent time rearranging, restocking and freshening up, I've had more sales.  

I've been so busy with other stuff (that dreaded day job!) that I found myself driving faster past the Marketplace so's I wouldn't feel guilty about not stopping in.  No more of that!   I'm starting with a new planner, and managing my time differently then I was before (more on that later!)   I have a few more actual work days and then my time, my energy and my creativity belong to me!  Yippee!  (13 days left!)  

Friday, May 27, 2016

New Adventures coming up!

In September last year I wrote in this post that I was wanting to leave my "day" job.  The one that pays my salary and has benefits.   Well I am happy to report that I have 14 work days left!



This girl is doing the Happy Dance!!!   I am so thrilled to be able to come home and love on my family, clean my own house, work on my booth, write, blog, sew, dance, sing, laugh....   whoa I was getting carried away for a minute.   
I got this fun image from here  I don't know if that's legal so don't copy me!

So close, but yet so far away.  I cant wait.  I hope you can join me here on my blog in my New Adventures!   





    
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